“Finding a Soul Mate”
Copyright: © Frank Polancic 2009
It is the topic that keeps coming up – over dinner with friends, around the office water cooler and especially on holiday visits with family: finding a soul mate.
People love to talk about all sorts of aspects of finding a soul mate: the dos and don’ts, the what-to-wear, the rules about when to call and when to wait. The journey to finding a soul mate is the subject of hundreds of movies, countless books, and even the fairy tales with which we were raised. There is a reason for that: in it’s our nature to love and be loved. We are drawn to love stories because they strike a chord within us.
Most of us have, in our efforts at finding a soul mate, hit more than our share of road blocks. We’ve wondered why the journey can feel so hopeless. And so we look harder – we’ve got our antennae up whether we are strolling along a beach in Cancun or just walking down a supermarket aisle. Have you found yourself doing this: looking everywhere for “the one”?
I’m going to let you in a secret that can change your life, starting today. The secret to finding a soul mate is to stop looking. That’s right: stop looking. Today is your day to make a decision to stop looking for a soul mate and let that person come to you. In my book Why Wait? Create Your Soul Mate Now! I explain that finding a soul mate is not a matter of searching high and low; instead it’s about gaining clarity about what you really want and trusting the universe will provide it.
The Law of Attraction teaches us that what we focus on is what manifests in our lives. As long as your focus is on looking for a soul mate, chances are your energy is directed to the search itself, rather than the discovery. You can instead stop looking and commit to creating the space in your life for your soul mate to show up.
Step one in creating your soul mate is to believe it. Picture yourself finding a soul mate effortlessly… at the moment you least expect it. Spend a few moments each day, every day, in the mindset that your soul mate is in your life. You can even make a collage of photographs and other symbols of what your life together will look like. Meditate on that, really feel it. At first this exercise may seem a little odd, because it’s brand new to you, but soon enough you will be living your life with the mindset and emotions of someone who is truly creating the life of her dreams.
You will be amazed by the changes you experience! You may even find that elements of your life outside of the realm of romance begin to change: you’ll feel better, with a more positive outlook. Be prepared for your friendships to change, as well. Some of the nay-sayers or other negative influences may be put off by the new and different you; chances are they won’t know what has changed but will subconsciously sense your newfound ease. It’s o.k., because the people who are truly on your side will gravitate toward you and support you.
Another change you will likely notice is that your relationship with time will seem different. Once you focus on what it feels like to have all you’ve ever dreamed of, you’ll experience a sense of calm. No more racing against the clock on an endless journey… time is all yours, and yours to share with the soul mate who is about to arrive. You deserve it!
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March 13th, 2009
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